Tuesday, February 28, 2006

rant rant rant

Today I read an interesting thing on Dooce, as she was responding to a woman who has a national campaign delivering the message that it's a waste for an educated woman to stay home with her children.


It's a waste to want to raise your own children and use your education to augment that? It's a waste because there's one less body in the workforce? It's a waste to care so much about your kids that you don't want to entrust them to a nanny or daycare?

Or is she just trying to deliver the message that we, as educated women, need simply to marry an uneducated man so that *he* can stay home and watch the kids?

When did caring so much for your offspring that you want to help teach them and expose them to new things become degrading? And somehow the pursuit of a career become more important? Those kid things, who the hell cares about them! I've got money to make!!

Here's my thought: On my deathbed, I am certainly not going to wish that I'd spent more time at the office. My last thought won't be "Damn, I wish I'd released that IPO and taken my company public!" And it certainly won't be, "I wish I'd made more money." I will hope that my family is there, and I will wish I had gotten to spend more time with them.

I wish people could see that money, while necessary to a point, doesn't cure life's ills. It doesn't make you happy. I know that there are many, many women for whom staying home is not an option because of bills and such. This rant is not directed toward them in any way.

My father was very successful in his career, and he's told me many times that his biggest accomplishments at work paled in comparison to spending time with his children and hearing them tell him that they love him. My father and mother were both very loving to me, and as a result, I feel like it's easy for me to show love to my spouse.

Anyhow, I could go on and on and on about all of this, but to sum up: I think that woman is ridiculous for trying to tell me and countless other intelligent, educated women what we should want and what we shouldn't- it's pretty obvious that no one is forcing us to want these things.


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